How to Get a Prenup Without Losing the Romance in Just 4 Simple Steps, Guaranteed

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Why This Guide Matters?

You’ve probably heard the word “prenup” tossed around at dinner parties, in celebrity news, or maybe whispered with unease in your own engagement conversations. Too often, it’s surrounded by myths it means distrust, it means expecting divorce, it means protecting the rich spouse and leaving the other vulnerable.

The truth? None of those definitions capture what a prenup really means.

At its core, a prenuptial agreement is about clarity and security. It’s about two people saying, “We love each other enough to be transparent, to protect one another, and to plan for the future no matter what it brings.”

In Divorce Decoded, I wrote about how silence and avoidance in marriages cost people more than money. They cost trust. A prenup, when done right, flips that script. It’s not a plan for divorce. It’s a framework for trust.

So, What Do Prenups Really Mean?

Let’s break it down in plain English.

A prenup in New York City means:

• Transparency: Both partners disclose their income, assets, debts, and financial expectations before saying “I do.”

• Protection: Businesses, inheritances, or children from prior relationships are shielded from uncertainty.

• Fairness: Spousal support and shared assets are negotiated upfront to avoid ugly disputes later.

• Trust: You both walk into marriage knowing the rules of the game.

💡 Think of it like insurance. You don’t buy car insurance expecting to crash. You buy it because life is unpredictable, and being unprepared is far more costly.

Common Myths About Prenups: Debunked

Myth #1: Prenups are for the rich.
Prenups aren’t just for millionaires. They’re for anyone who owns a home, runs a business, or simply wants to avoid financial chaos later.

Myth #2: Prenups ruin the romance.
The opposite is true. Couples who have the tough conversations early build stronger foundations. Transparency breeds trust.

Myth #3: Prenups only protect one partner.
Done right, they protect both. They prevent resentment and ensure no one feels blindsided in the future.

In Divorce Decoded, I share how one Wall Street executive avoided years of financial conflict by negotiating a balanced prenup. Both partners walked away feeling secure and that security became the bedrock of their marriage.

What Prenups Cover (And What They Don’t)

A prenup is not a free-for-all. New York courts require them to be fair and clear. Here’s what they usually cover:

• Property ownership: Who keeps what property, and what becomes marital property.

• Future earnings: How bonuses, stock options, or business growth are handled.

• Debts: Protection from one partner’s liabilities.

• Spousal support: Terms for alimony in the event of divorce.

• Inheritance: Ensuring family wealth passes as intended.

But prenups can’t address everything. They cannot dictate child custody or child support in advance, those decisions are always made by the court in the child’s best interest.

Why Prenups Actually Strengthen Marriages

Here’s the surprising part: prenups don’t weaken love. They reinforce it.

When couples sit down to discuss a prenup, they’re really discussing:

• What money means to them.

• How they’ll share responsibilities.

• How they’ll protect each other and their children.

That conversation builds trust. And when the paperwork is signed, both partners breathe easier.

Case Study: Jason, a NYC tech founder, feared that his booming startup might one day become a liability in marriage. By drafting a prenup that protected his business but also ensured his partner was cared for with fair spousal support terms, they both entered marriage relieved, not resentful. The prenup didn’t create distance. It created peace.

How to Get a Prenup in New York Step by Step

So how do you actually get one? Here’s the process we guide clients through at ASJ Law Office:

1. Consultation
   Meet privately with an attorney to discuss your goals, concerns, and financial picture. At ASJ, our process is discreet, empathetic, and tailored to high-earning professionals.

2. Full Disclosure
   Both partners must be transparent about income, assets, debts, and financial expectations. This is the foundation of a valid prenup.

3. Drafting & Negotiation
   Each partner has their own lawyer. Together, terms are negotiated — fairly and strategically — until both parties are comfortable.

4. Finalization
   Once signed and notarized, your prenup becomes a legally binding agreement.

Timeline: The process typically takes 4–8 weeks. Don’t wait until days before your wedding. Judges may view last-minute prenups as coerced.

Mistakes to Avoid When Getting a Prenup

• Waiting too long: Start early.

• Using a template: DIY prenups rarely hold up in court.

• One-sided terms: Agreements that feel unfair often collapse.

• Failure to update: As life changes, your prenup should evolve.

FAQs: What People Ask Most

Q: Do prenups cover future earnings?
Yes. You can decide in advance how bonuses, investments, and business growth will be handled.

Q: Can prenups be challenged?
Yes, if they were signed under pressure, lacked disclosure, or were grossly unfair. A well-drafted prenup by ASJ is designed to withstand scrutiny.

Q: Isn’t this planning for divorce?
No. This is planning for marriage. It’s ensuring love isn’t clouded by money fights.

The Big Picture: What Prenups Really Mean

Prenups mean trust, not distrust. They mean clarity, not fear. They mean that both partners love each other enough to have the hard conversations now instead of letting a court decide later.

In Divorce Decoded, I remind clients: “It’s not planning for divorce. It’s planning for peace.”

When you frame it this way, you’ll see that prenups are not about expecting failure. They’re about ensuring fairness, stability, and protection for the people and assets that matter most.

Your Next Step

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